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  • If You Are In The Blackness. . . It Can Turn to Light.

    If You Are In The Blackness. . . It Can Turn to Light.

    I have been talking a lot about the blackness.  When you are suffering a loss, you know what this means.  You are in the black. This song captures it all.  I can’t say anything else.  Just listen.  And believe. David Crowder – All This Glory. . .


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  • Lost Someone?  You Will Change.  But Joy Wins.

    Lost Someone? You Will Change. But Joy Wins.

    When you lose someone the world, your family, your friends and your co-workers may expect you to “heal” sooner than you are able.  They might even expect you to return to them the same person you were before your loss.  If you are suffering a loss, you probably know right now that remaining the same […]


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  • Grieving? Forgive Them.  They Know Not What They Do.

    Grieving? Forgive Them. They Know Not What They Do.

    Many people say some really stupid things when tragedy strikes – and I mean really stupid. Some comments will stab like a dagger.  Others will make you seethe with anger.  Others will make you break down in tears. Forgive them.  They know not what they do. I have touched on this is a few other […]


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  • Do What You Need To Do To Move Forward When Suffering A Loss

    Do What You Need To Do To Move Forward When Suffering A Loss

    I can’t tell you what will help you.  I can’t tell you what will make you feel an iota better.  All I can tell you is what helped me.  So take what you can from the following list and breathe.  See Grieving?  Breathe – Don’t Send Thank You Notes. 1) Pictures.  Get all the pictures […]


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  • Give a Rip, Lend An Ear, And Know that Grace Trumps Death

    Give a Rip, Lend An Ear, And Know that Grace Trumps Death

    I am reflecting quite a bit today because I had the privilege to talk to a widow of a man who served our country for over twenty-six years.  After leaving the army WT served as a government contractor.  He went on assignments all over the country.  In 2009 he went to Alaska and on September […]


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  • Would You Die For This Country?  They Did.

    Would You Die For This Country? They Did.

    It is Memorial Day.  Not a good day for me.  It always comes a few days after the anniversary of the death of my husband. One of my besties asked me the other day, “Does it bother you when you see advertisements for great barbecuing tips and other “party ideas” for Memorial Day?  I had […]


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  • War Hero.  My Hero.  Meet A Soldier’s Widow

    War Hero. My Hero. Meet A Soldier’s Widow

    It is Memorial Day Weekend – a double whammy for me.  Two soldiers in full military uniform knocked on my door the night before Memorial Day weekend 6 years ago today – May 25th, 2006.  My husband was never coming home.  My world – at least the world I loved – was over – on […]


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  • 5 Ways To Help A Grieving Friend

    5 Ways To Help A Grieving Friend

    If you know someone who is grieving something in their life,there are ways you can help.     But before I get into those things I want to say, I feel for you.  I was on the other end of this – dealing with a death of a spouse, and those friends that stuck with […]


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  • Does Time Heal?  Or Does Time Just Make It Real?

    Does Time Heal? Or Does Time Just Make It Real?

    Time. We all wish we could have more of it.  But when you lose someone or something close to you, you might just wish for less. When my husband was killed in action, I wanted time to stop.  I wanted God to part the heavens and rescue me from living another day.  I prayed for […]


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  • Hate God Because Of A Loss?  Pray Anyway.

    Hate God Because Of A Loss? Pray Anyway.

    The worst happens.  You get mad at God.  Or you hate God.  Or your world is so dark you really don’t know what to think about God. Been there? Many times, when people feel like this, they stop going to church.  They stop praying.  They just stop. When my husband was killed, my aunt didn’t […]


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