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  • Be A Friend Today – Listen

    Be A Friend Today – Listen

    Job is one of the hardest books in the Bible for me to read. I don’t exactly know why.  I love the beginning of Job, and I love the ending, but I get lost in the middle.  I think perhaps for me it is just a bit too poetic.  I mean, it is saying a […]


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  • God Cares About The Details

    God Cares About The Details

    When I saw girls walking around with purses made out of soldiers uniforms, I knew I had to have one.  I discovered a site that made surviving spouses a bag for free – all you had to do is send in your husband’s uniform.  Done.  I sent in Doug’s uniform as soon as I could. […]


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  • If I Had Only Prayed More . . . !

    If I Had Only Prayed More . . . !

    When my husband was killed, I read something that basically told me if I had prayed more, Doug’s death may not have happened.  We have all heard this before, felt this before, or thought this before.  “If I had only prayed more!”  But is this truth?  I will tell you what I wrote in my […]


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  • Meet Doug As He Reads To His Son

    Meet Doug As He Reads To His Son

    Doug decided to record himself reading to Dak before he left for Iraq in November 2005.   Our dog Napa was a little jealous of the attention Dak was getting (as you will see in the video)!  For those of you who knew Doug, this may be a little hard to watch, but it is […]


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  • Don’t Fear You Will Forget Them.  You Won’t.

    Don’t Fear You Will Forget Them. You Won’t.

    September 16, 2006 I am terrified I am going to forget him.  Like what he sounded like, what he did on a day-to-day basis.  How he smiled  – how he came into a room straight to me and rub my back.  How he use to sit by me on the couch.  How he ate, chewed, […]


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  • No One Understands But God – Journal Post 10

    No One Understands But God – Journal Post 10

    When you are grieving, you need to know one thing: no one understands. No one knows how much you cry.  No one knows what triggers those tears.  No one knows how much you miss them.  No one knows your inner scream.  No one gets it. Except God.  He knit you together (Ps. 139:13).  He knows […]


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  • When You Hurt.  Find A True Friend.

    When You Hurt. Find A True Friend.

    This is by far one of the most important posts I can write in this grief series I have been working on these past few weeks.  You will meet one of my true friends in my next post.  For those of you who have read my book, she is one of the stars. She suffered […]


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  • God Will Come Through, Not Sometime, Not Occasionally, but Always.

    God Will Come Through, Not Sometime, Not Occasionally, but Always.

    Ready for a song?  As I said in Wednesday’s blog Do What You Need To Do When Suffering A Loss, songs are important to me. Always, by Kristian Stanfill is one of my favorite songs.  Before you listen to it, I want to just highlight a few things he sings about. We have a lot […]


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